It is so important to stay true to oneself, even if there are many societal shoulds. I write this post as a gentle nudge, if you feel something in your gut, listen to it. Ask yourself some hard questions and ask if you deserve the truth. Even if it’s dark, painful or uncomfortable. Are you able to ready to bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul?

I was married to a covert narcissist and did not really realise the extent (or the impact) of the emotional manipulation until I had walked away from the relationship and had a bit of distance, (and luck) to put two and two together. I had moments of doubt/questions, months and perhaps even years in advance, but I chose to ignore the feelings, rationalise them away and convince myself that I was in love.